Relentless: From Good to Great to Unstoppable (Tim Grover Winning Series)

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Work. Working hard is not a skill, it is not a talent, it is something which you either do or don't. Anything is possible given the time and effort, but most people are not able to put in that time. WORK. Work everyday, Kobe Bryant would work as hard on the off season as he would during the regular season. He would train multiple times a day in any way he could even if he had an injury. There are a lot of talented people in the world and a lot of hard working people as well. The only way to set yourself apart is to go the extra mile every single day. Shortform note: Grover suggests that acting on instinct will help you avoid strong emotions, but many psychologists provide a contrasting view. Research around panic suggests that it comes from a “fight or flight” response—our natural, instinctual response to potential danger. In other words, instinct can create strong fearful emotions if you’re not able to direct it into intense focus.) Chapter 8: When You're a Cleaner...When everyone is hitting the 'In Case of Emergency' button, they're all looking for you. There is something intoxicating and soothing about the experience of listening to Sally Rooney’s debut. As I try to sort out why, I imagine it’s because there’s a conversations-with-friends quality to the writing, which lends itself perfectly to a listening experience. It was as if I was simply over hearing — and then becoming part of — a particularly juicy conversation. I find myself remembering the sensual nature of the prose and the remarkably mellifluous voice of Irish actress Aoife McMahon. I close my eyes and imagine the story and it merges with my listening experience.” —Joanna Hershon, author of St. Ivo

People can get emotional and call you all sorts of names and not like you, but it’s not about that. It’s about people respecting you because you are the BEST at what you do. That’s why you sacrifice like you do. Others just talk about it.] Shortform note: Grover’s recommendation here seems to argue in favor of isolation, saying that spending too much time developing relationships impedes success. However, studies contrast with Grover by suggesting isolation negatively impacts mental and physical health, which could prevent success by damaging your motivation or your performance in your field.) Method #2: Accept Discomfort Being a cleaner has almost nothing to do with talent.... but those who reach this level of excellence don’t coast on their talent. They’re completely focused on taking responsibility and taking charge. They just don’t perform a job, they reinvent it. ‘I OWN THIS.’ ” It’s time to stop listening to what everyone else says about you , telling you what to do , how to act , how you should feel . Let them judge you by your results , and nothing else ; it’s none of their business how you get where you’re going . If you’re relentless , there is no Remember, it’s not about talent or brains or wealth. It’s about the relentless instinctive drive to do whatever it takes—anything—to get to the top of where you want to be, and to stay there.Being relentless means demanding more of yourself than anyone else could ever demand of you , knowing that every time you stop , you can still do more . You must do more . In this section, we’ll examine three areas Grover says to direct your instincts—knowledge, emotions, and your primal self as well as how doing so will help you become Unstoppable. Instinctively Using Knowledge Thankfully, there are guys like Tim Grover who show us that there’s another way. Where to Go for More

Part 2: The Unstoppable Need to Succeed explains the first of the two main relentless qualities, and explores how constantly pushing yourself as hard as you can to succeed by any means necessary. When someone else says you’ve failed, what they really mean is ‘If that were me, I would feel like a failure.’ Well, that guy’s not you, and he’s obviously not a Cleaner, because Cleaners don’t recognize failure (209). To truly push and pressure yourself as hard as you can, Grover argues that you must follow the third principle behind the Unstoppable need to succeed: seeking success by any means necessary. Grover provides two methods for following this principle: making sacrifices and accepting discomfort. Method #1: Make Sacrifices

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Shortform note: Research supports Grover’s argument that you can “train” your instincts to rely on the things you know or believe. A study on people who had performed heroic acts by risking their lives to save others revealed that the majority of these people hadn’t considered if trying to save the person was the right thing to do. Instead, they acted intuitively on their existing moral beliefs without taking time to think. This suggests that your more “rational” thoughts and beliefs inspire instinctive action.) Master Your Field

But I don’t want to sacrifice anything. I still want to eat delicious foods. Isn’t there a shortcut? I don’t want to do any work. Just hand me over the wonder pill. Oh, but those supplements are expensive. I don’t know if I can do that. I am so hungry at times. Do I really have to work out? Isn’t there an easier way? Blah, blah, blah… I’m such a little bitch.” In an individual sport if you quit, you quit on yourself. With a team sport, you have a lot of other people relying on you. Shortform note: Anette Karmiloff-Smith explains the brain science behind mastery in Beyond Modularity. She suggests that once you’re skilled enough to perform a task automatically, your brain puts less effort into the task and can use that effort on other things. Your brain can then use this “freed up” power for a more flexible and creative approach.) Instinctively Controlling Emotions Again: emotions make you weak. The fastest way to tumble out of the Zone is to allow emotions to drive your actions. Grover insists that you can only be Unstoppable at one thing and that you’ll have to make sacrifices elsewhere in your life by spending less time and energy on everything else. If you split time and energy between multiple disciplines, then you aren’t giving everything you have to any of them and therefore aren’t pursuing success relentlessly. Not only will you have to avoid spending time and energy on other disciplines, but you’ll also have to avoid spending too much time and energy on your family and relationships.The Wednesday players, and the crowd, fed off that relentlessness and it probably aided what turned out to be by far and away the strongest showing of the season - by some distance. Just the start Success and failure are 100 percent mental. One person’s idea of success might seem like a complete failure to someone else. You must establish your own vision of what it means to be unstoppable; you can’t let anyone else define that for you. What does your gut tell you? What do your instincts know about what you should be doing, how you’re going to succeed, and what you’re going to succeed at? How can anyone tell you what that should be?